If you’re wondering how to spruce up the chat at your dinner table over the festive period, these Christmas conversation starters will help!
Christmas is a time for presents, food, and gatherings of family and friends. It’s also a time of looking back over our lives, to our childhoods and thinking about the future.
If you’re sitting with friends or family, you’re full of turkey, cake, and wine, and want to chat but don’t have the mental energy to think of anything, then this list of things to talk about at Christmas will help!
There are questions to ask at Christmas, memories of the past, and other topics for discussion at Christmas that will get you and your loved ones chatting until Santa comes calling or until Uncle Joe falls asleep in the punch bowl.
We hope these Christmas conversation starters will bring your family and friends closer together! Enjoy and Merry Christmas!
Best Christmas Conversation Starters
1. What’s the best gift you’ve ever received and what made it special?
2. What are some activities you love to do only at Christmas?
3. What’s a Christmas food you’d like to remove from the Christmas dinner table?
4. What was your most memorable Christmas?
5. Were you told Santa Claus was real and if so, do you remember how you found out he wasn’t? (If you’re finding out on this question list, I’m sorry!)
6. Who’s a nightmare to buy for at Christmas?
7. Who gives the worst presents in your family or friendship circle?
8. What’s your favorite time of the day on Christmas Day?
9. Which do you prefer – Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, or Boxing Day?
10. Is there a gift you have given in your life that has completely backfired for one reason or another?
11. What’s the worst Christmas sweater you’ve ever seen?
12. There seems to be a hot debate about this – Do you put tinsel on your Christmas tree, yes or no?
13. Telling children Santa Claus is real is basically lying to them – what are the moral problems surrounding this?
14. What are your favorite Christmas movies and why?
15. What’s your most embarrassing moment?
16. Who in your group would make the best leader of your country?
17. Do you have a favorite specific Christmas decoration? Does it have a particular memory attached to it?
18. Christmas is known as the most wonderful time of the year, do you agree? If you don’t, why not?
19. What’s your favorite memory from last Christmas?
20. There are a lot of Christmas traditions that people don’t do so much anymore such as hanging mistletoe, singing carols, and dancing – what would you like to bring back?
21. What was your best Christmas gift shopping find? Who was the gift for?
22. What does the idea of getting presents from Santa Claus if you’re good and coal from him if you’re bad tell us about our societies’ view of morality?
23. The Christmas period seems to start earlier and earlier every year. What problems does this cause?
24. What fictional Christmas character do you wish was actually real?
25. Do you know what your love languages are (as in, the way you feel loved)? If so, do they surprise you? If not, what do you guess they are?
26. What’s the most important part of Christmas for you?
27. Stockings and crackers are filled with cheap plastic toys that never get played with after Christmas Day – how would you fix this problem?
28. In what ways, if at all, should society change Christmas to become more inclusive of other cultures and traditions? Or should those people conform more to the culture of the country they live in?
29. What’s something you really appreciate about another person in your family or friendship group?
30. Attending church is still a big part of Christmas for many people even if they don’t regularly go – do you go and why do you think others go?
31. Fewer people send Christmas cards every year – why do you think that is?
32. What person do you associate most with Christmas? Why is that?
33. Are there things you do every year at Christmas that you’re indifferent about or actually dislike, but you do it anyway because of tradition or because of others?
34. What’s the difference between tolerance and respect?
35. Should the council or local authorities spend money on decorating for a religious holiday like Christmas?
36. Are there occasions where you’ve received presents you really hate? How have you reacted?
37. Is there something that should be marked by a holiday or be celebrated we don’t currently celebrate?
38. Christmas is a time of year when we look back to the past – how is this helpful and how is this not?
39. If we as a society have so much money to buy lots of things at Christmas for one another, is that really the best use of that money?
40. Do you find you are in a lot of pain yourself when you’ve hurt someone? Do you still feel it even once they’ve forgiven you?
41. Does the birth of Jesus play a part in your Christmas? Why or why not?
42. Food, shelter, family, money, influence – how would you rank these in order of importance?
43. What are you most looking forward to in the year to come?
44. Many people lavishly decorate the outside of their houses with lights, statues, and other things – what’s your opinion on this?
45. Some say Christmas is for kids. In what ways is this true and in what ways is it not?
46. What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done on Christmas Day?
47. What makes the perfect Christmas party?
48. Suicide rates are high this time of year, why do you think that is?
49. How does Christmas affect your work?
50. Whom do you find it easiest to buy for at Christmas? Why do you think that is?
51. Christmas gets more commercialized every year – do you think this is a problem?
52. Is there a Christmas movie or TV special you watch every year? Why do you have this tradition?
53. Parents spend different amounts of money on their children’s presents, what would you say is too much and why?
54. Giving to the poor and needy is a big part of Christmas in our minds, but how often do you actually do it? And shouldn’t we do it all year round?
55. Looking back over the year, what would you do differently if you could?
56. Do your actions line up with your values?
57. Is there anything you always expect (or expected) to get in your Christmas stocking? Chocolate coins? A Toblerone? A tangerine?
58. Should all shops be shut on Boxing Day to give managers more of a break?
59. Where are you usually on Christmas Eve?
60. Is there someone in your life you need to let go of in some way?
61. What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned at Christmas time?
62. George Michael sang about having his heart given away at Christmas, have you ever been heartbroken at this time of year? What happened?
63. When is it OK to share someone’s secret they told you confidentially?
64. Do you ever think about the environmental impact of eating Turkey, Beef, or Chicken every Christmas or are you vegetarian/vegan?
65. What’s your most memorable present-opening experience?
66. What person or thing in your work makes it so much better?
67. Do you buy Christmas gifts months in advance or last minute in the days before?
68. How would you describe your role or place in your family or friendship group?
69. When it comes to money, are you more likely to spend or save?
70. What are the positives about having a day in the year where almost everyone is off work and celebrating? What are the negatives?
71. What have you gained in the last year that you’re most thankful for?
72. What’s your greatest irrational fear?
73. Can you tell things about people by the presents they give you?
74. Where do you (or did you) hang your stocking on Christmas Eve? Why did you hang it there?
75. What do you secretly hate that others love almost unanimously?
76. What Christmas present has had the greatest effect on your life?
77. What encouragement do you wish people would say to you more that you never hear?
78. What do you love to do at Christmas that blesses others and helps them?
79. How would you become famous? How would someone else in your group become famous?
80. If you had to make presents for people, what would you create?
81. What would cause Christmas not to feel like Christmas for you?
82. Did you ever have a nickname, or secretly wish for one? If not, what would be your ideal nickname and why?
83. What have you achieved in the last year you’re most proud of?
84. What did your school use to do at Christmas time that you loved?
85. What did your school use to do at Christmas time that you hated?
86. When was the last time you truly helped someone in a big way?
87. Mariah Carey stated that all she wants for Christmas is you, but who do you want for Christmas?
88. Is it ever OK to lie and if so, when?
89. Where in the house do you open your presents? Is there a reason for this?
90. What do you look for in a boy/girlfriend or spouse/partner? If you’re with someone, are they what you were looking for?
91. If you had to live one year of your life over and over, which would it be?
92. What’s the most memorable commercial from your childhood?
93. Do you carry anything around with you or keep something in your bedroom that is important to you for sentimental value?
94. What do you dislike about social get-togethers?
95. It’s said half the fun is getting there – what was your most memorable trip?
96. Have you ever had an experience you can’t explain rationally? What happened?
97. What’s a hobby you’d love to get into but can’t or haven’t for some reason?
98. What’s a Christmas tradition that makes sense to you but is peculiar to others?
99. What’s something you feel you couldn’t live without, but deep down you know you could?
100. What’s a warning sign someone won’t be a good friend?
101. What does your usual Christmas Day look like?
102. If you had millions, what kind of charity would you set up?
103. Is there something important in your life you always forget or forget to do? If so, why do you forget?
104. Many people get stressed over Christmas – why do you think that is?
105. Many wish for snow at Christmas, but is it selfish to think this as it creates problems for travel, work, and homeless people?
106. Swearing is seen as taboo around children, and not always appreciated around adults – why do you think that is?
107. If you could have a Christmas wish or prayer to fix a problem in the world, what would it be and why?
108. Do you have a memory of traveling home for Christmas? Was it exciting or stressful?
109. Sugar has recently been taxed to try and influence people’s behavior to eat less sugar – do you think taxation should be used this way?
110. Do you have a real or fake Christmas tree and why?
111. Is there something we learned from history we’re forgetting?
112. When was the last time you really expanded your mind?
113. If you could spend Christmas Day with anyone alive or dead, who would it be and why?
114. Who was your favorite teacher at school and why?
115. Is there a Christmas song you hate for one reason or another?
116. What’s the difference between intelligence and wisdom?
117. What does Christmas look like for you?
118. What’s the best thing you’ve ever taught someone else?
119. What’s the naughtiest thing you did as a child?
120. Christmas decorations used to be put up on Christmas Eve – when do you put them up?
121. Have you ever felt depressed at Christmas? What did you do about it?
122. Should you always act on your emotions?
123. Are you an optimistic or pessimistic kind of person? Why or why not?
124. The Christian element of Christmas is ignored by many – why do you think this is?
125. Do you have a Christmas ritual you do that no one knows about?
126. What’s your favorite adaptation of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol?
127. Do you have any socially acceptable addictions? Do you have any addictions that are not?
128. Are your closest friends very different from you?
129. If you could add one person to your family, who would it be and why?
130. What’s a question you ask yourself all the time?
131. What’s your earliest memory of a big news event?
132. Are there any differences between you and your friends that can or could cause division in some way?
133. Is there a Christmas song you know off by heart? Could you sing it?
134. If you had to celebrate another holiday at this time of year which would you choose – Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Solstice, or Rohatsu (Bodhi Day)?
135. What’s your favorite Christmas dessert?
136. Do you do your Christmas shopping online or in stores? Maybe some of both?
137. What’s your favorite Christmas pop song? What’s your favorite Christmas carol?
138. Do you prefer Christmas at home or somewhere else?
139. Egg nog, sprouts, or bread sauce?
140. Which celebrity would you spend Christmas Day with and why?
141. Do you prefer to give or receive gifts?
142. If you had to rename Christmas, what would you call it?
143. Should you wait to buy Christmas presents in January when the sales are on to save money?
144. Would Christmas still be a big deal if it wasn’t for Santa Claus, Christmas trees, and gifts?
145. Would you prefer a Christmas with lots of family members around or a quiet Christmas with just one other person?
146. If you could eat a specific Christmas food all year round, which would you choose?
147. What’s your best school memory from your childhood?
148. Is there a book you have to read every Christmas?
149. Turkey, chicken, or nut roast?
150. What’s a present you always wanted for Christmas when you were a child that you never received?
Looking For More Questions?
Questions to get to know someone – If you have people around for Christmas dinner, you’re unfamiliar with, or you’re going to Christmas parties, this list of questions will help you strike up some interesting conversations.
Deep conversation starters – If you’re looking for some more generalised conversation starters that aren’t related to Christmas, this is the list for you. You can use these in any type of scenario and if the Christmas chat has run its course!