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150 Kinky Questions To Ask To Create Tension In The Bedroom

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These kinky questions to ask your partner or the person you’re dating are sure to get both of you in the mood!

What these freaky questions to ask are intended to do is to create some tension between the two of you. They can be used when you want to get intimate and when you’re getting intimate too.

They can also be used to better understand your partner and what they like and don’t like during your intimate moments. Asking naughty questions is an underrated way for the two of you to bond and strengthen your relationship.

Communication is one of the most important aspects of developing a more intimate relationship and these questions will allow you to do just that!

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Best Kinky Questions To Ask

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1. What do you think is the most intense position while being intimate? 

2. What’s the most extreme thing you’ve done in the bedroom? 

3. Have you ever been intimate with someone a lot older than you?

4. If you could sleep with someone famous tonight, who would it be and why?

5. What’s the strangest place you’ve done it?  

6. What’s the naughtiest picture you’ve ever sent someone?

7. How do you feel about role-playing in the bedroom?

8. What’s your most-watched porn category?  

9. What’s the biggest fetish you’re yet to fulfill? 

10. What fantasy have you always wanted to act out? 

11. Do you prefer to get it on in the morning or just before you go to sleep? 

12. Would you rather lick Nutella or whipped cream off your partner?

13. Have you ever been intimate with someone of the same gender? 

14. Have you ever fantasized about one of your friends’ partners?

15. Does being blindfolded in the bedroom turn you on?


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16. What naughty outfit would you most like to wear in the bedroom? 

17. Would you consider being tied up with handcuffs while in the bedroom?

18. What costume would you most like to wear while being intimate?

19. Do you prefer to be dominated in the bedroom or to be submissive? 

20. Do you like things to be physical, rough, or relaxed and gentle in the bedroom? 

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21. How would you rate yourself out of 10 in bed? 

22. What are some of your best qualities in the bedroom? 

23. Have you ever done it in a public place?

24. Would you like someone watching you while you’re doing it? 

25. Do you prefer to use an intimate toy yourself, or let a partner control it?


26. What naughty dream have you had recently? 

27. Have you ever been attracted to a teacher?

28. How do you feel about couples that have casual relationships? 

29. What’s your opinion on having one-night stands?  

30. Have you ever had a one-night stand with someone? 

31. Have you ever woken up in the morning and regretted sleeping with someone? 

32. Have you ever fallen asleep during foreplay? 

33. Do you prefer lights off or lights on during an intimate encounter? 

34. Have you ever used toys in the bedroom? If so, what toys did you use? 

35. What’s one thing you would never agree to do in the bedroom? 

36. Have you ever slept with more than one person at once? 

37. Have you ever been to a swinger’s party? 

38. What method do you prefer the most when reaching orgasm?

39. Have you ever slept with a friend’s ex-partner? 

40. Where is your favorite place to be kissed while in bed?

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41. Describe to me what you feel when you orgasm? 

42. Are you loud in the bedroom? 

43. How do you feel about being dominant versus submissive in the bedroom? 

44. What’s your dirty talk like? 

45. What’s your favorite kinky emoji? 

46. When you pleasure yourself, do you like to use your hands or toys? 

47. What was the first toy you ever purchased? 

48. Has a partner ever bought you a toy before? 

49. Where do you keep all your toys at home? 

50. Have you ever videoed yourself masturbating so you can watch it back later? 

51. Would you ever consider being in an adult movie online? 

52. Do you like to send and receive naked pictures? 

53. What could you improve on in the bedroom?

54. What attracts you most to someone’s body? 

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55. What in your opinion is the best part of your body? 

56. Do you like playing naughty games? 

57. What do you think about being intimate outdoors?

58. What do you wear to bed when you’re in the mood?

59. What sexy outfit would you most like to see me in? 

60. Do you have any fantasies or kinks you’d like to experiment with? 

61. What do you usually do to turn someone on? 

62. How do you feel about giving oral?

63. What’s something that turns you off in the bedroom? 

64. Do you feel comfortable being nude in front of people you don’t know? 

65. How would you feel about going to a nudist beach? 

66. What specific body part of yours turns people on the most? 

67. What’s one naughty word you really can’t stand? 

68. How do you feel about being intimate in the shower or bath? 

69. How often do you leave the house without wearing underwear? 

70. What’s your favorite color of underwear to wear? 

71. What are you wearing right at this moment? 

72. Would you like to see me wear anything specific? 

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73. To you, does size matter? 

74. What’s the most significant number of times you’ve orgasmed in one night? 

75. Would you consider using oil in the bedroom? 

76. Have you ever called the person you’re doing it with someone else’s name? 

77. Have you ever imagined the person you’re sleeping with was someone else you know? 

78. How often do you masturbate?

79. Do you ever get any naughty dreams that are repeated?

80. Would you like to sleep with one of your parent’s friends? 

81. How old were you when you lost your virginity? How did it feel?  

82. Where on your body do you like being touched the most? 

83. When did you last sleep with someone? Who was it with, and how was it? 

84. What’s the longest time you’ve gone without doing anything sexual with someone? 

85. What’s your favorite part of the house to have an intimate encounter? 

86. How long do you prefer foreplay to last? 

87. Do you feel turned on by me? What specifically turns you on? 

88. What song always gets you in the mood? 

89. Do you like to play music in the bedroom? 

90. What famous naughty movie scene have you always wanted to act out? 

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91. If you had to choose one position to do it in for the rest of your life, what position would be and why? 

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92. What do you think when a girl makes the first move? 

93. Have you ever been caught while intimate with a girl? 

94. What’s the dirtiest fantasy that comes to your mind right now? 

95. What piece of clothing do you want to see me in the next time we have sex? 

96. Do older women, or younger women turn you on the most? 

97. Would you like to watch me pleasure myself?  

98. If you could get one famous girl to join us the next time we have sex, who would you want to invite and why? 

99. If you had a time machine, are there any girls you would not have had sex with if you had the choice again? 

100. Do you like it when girls moan in the bedroom? 

101. How do you feel about being silent in the bedroom? 

102. Have you ever taken Viagra before? How was it? 

103. Do you prefer to do it with a condom on or without? 

104. What flavor condoms have you tried in the past? 

105. What’s something embarrassing that’s happened in the bedroom? 

106. Who out of your friends would you say are the best lovers? 

107. Describe your first kiss to me? 

108. Do you think you know what girls want in the bedroom? 

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109. Do you wish you could change anything about your body? 

110. Would you rather be known as a player but great in bed or be known as a Mr. nice guy who isn’t great in bed? 

111. Have you ever slept with a girl when they’ve been on their period? 

112. Have you ever slept with a girl who was pregnant? 

113. Draw a naked picture of your perfect woman? 

114. Have you ever slept with two different girls in one evening? 

115. Do you think you could pick me up in the bedroom? 

116. How much money do you think you could earn as a male prostitute? 

117. Do you like girls with big boobs or big butts? 

118. Have you ever used a dildo on someone before? 

119. Would you like to use a toy on me in public? 

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120. Have you ever, or would you like to go skinny dipping? 

121. Would it excite you to get it on outdoors? 

122. What do you think is your kinkiest turn on? 

123. If you could change anything about how you perform in the bedroom, what would you change? 

124. How would you rate yourself at giving oral? 

125. Video yourself showing me your oral skills using a banana. 

126. Have you ever broken-down crying while making love? 

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127. Do you have any naughty questions you’ve always wanted to ask someone but have never had the confidence to ask them? 

128. Have you ever accidentally sent a nude picture to the wrong person? 

129. What film always gets you in the mood? 

130. Have you ever fooled around in a cinema before? 

131. What can I do to make you have a mind-blowing orgasm? 

132. Have you ever used any adult books to improve your performance in the bedroom? 

133. Would you rather join the mile-high club or do it in the changing room of a shop? 

134. Have you ever been hesitant to try something in the bedroom, but you’ve loved doing it? 

135. What’s your favorite type of foreplay? 

136. If you had the choice to be a full-time dominatrix, would you take the job? 

137. Have you ever faked an illness in the bedroom because you weren’t into that person? 

138. What position do you always orgasm in? 

139. Do you have a strategy when it comes to making a guy cum instantly? 

140. Have you ever squirted before?

141. What’s your favorite naughty activity to do with the person you’re seeing? 

142. What has been the hottest compliment you’ve ever received from a guy? 

143. Do you like men who are shaven or hairy? 

144. Describe your ideal penis? 

145. What’s one dirty act you would love to try before you die? 

146. Would you ever go into a strip club with your partner? 

147. Would you let me draw you naked? 

148. Have you ever done it in the back seat of a car? 

149. Have you ever brought food into the bedroom?  

150. Have you ever tied someone up in the bedroom? 

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Tom Stevenson

Co-Founder of Questions About Everything

Tom is a travel writer and Co-Founder of Questions About Everything. He grew up in the UK and enjoys spending his time traveling to new places, supporting Liverpool FC, and blogging about his adventures. He spent two years teaching English in Barcelona and frequently utilized question games and conversation starters as part of his lesson plans. As an EFL teacher, he took full responsibility for planning and delivering lessons, frequently employing creative and diverse questions to engage the children in conversation. Learn more about Tom on our About page.

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